The quest for happiness, personal fulfillment, tranquility and their attainment often gets truncated by stress.
There are many stressors: – relationship issues, professional productivity, administrative or financial concerns … the causes of stress are multiple and affect many aspects of our lives.
While no human can completely avoid stress, our reaction
to it is what is critical.
There are simple actions that can minimize stress and limit its impact on us.
Better communication strategies
In the worship center, workplace, market, wherever, daily life entails social exchanges. Stress is often a result of interacting humans not knowing what is expected of them.
So as not to appear incompetent or lacking social graces, we interact based on our perception of what is expected of us. This perception may not be correct, and therefore cause conflicts – thus, stress, leading to errors that may give rise to conflicts or misunderstandings.
Always ask questions and clearly take the side of direct communication to avoid misunderstandings and to clarify ambiguities. At the professional level, this is especially important to avoid your bosses able colleagues the wrong way.
Unless you are psychic, you can not always correctly read the minds of the people you interact with and thus determine what’s expected of you.
A place for everything.
Orderliness and tidiness will limit the time spent to get hold of what you need, and the number of distractions that can stress you up.
One of the key lessons my dad always used to drum into our ears was,
Have a place for everything, and put everything in its proper place.
The secret to enjoying a healthy environment that significantly eliminates stress is simply to define a specific place for each object and to respect this inexorably. Any object moved must be returned to its proper place after use. Consistently.
That way, you do not start hunting desperately for your car keys when going for that important appointment, with just 45 minutes left to spare.
This leads us to the next point:
Leaving everything until the last minute puts unnecessary pressure on us.
Associated with this is the common saying,
Don’t leave until tomorrow what can be done today.
Nobody is quite sure of what tomorrow would bring.
How about selecting, the day before, the dress to wear, lay-out the things you want to take along with you, etc.
That way, the risk of forgetting something is reduced because you have enough to time to plan.
Leave multitasking to the computers.
Do your things one by one.
This was a mantra that an hyperactive room-mate in University used to sing. IGt stayed with me ever since., to this day.
It is impossible to maintain optimal concentration on multiple objectives, which greatly increases the risk of error.
Each task, no matter how inconsequential, must be completed before moving on to the next one. Not only will your focus be improved, but you can rely on the personal satisfaction of these achievements to give you a boost before responding to a new imperative. This will significant reduce stress.
Make use of that phone.
From time to tine, in the course of the day, we could get a wave of inspiration. Put the idea down so you don’t forget. If you are old-school, a pencil & paper should always be nearby for such eureka moments.
There is nothing as stressful as forgetting something you know is vitally important, but not being able to recall what it is.
With the era of smartphones, forgetting anything is no longer tenable… use it to stay better organized, and eliminate a major chunk of the stress of forgetfulness.
Separate your personal life from your office / business life
Unfortunately, this may be impossible, depending on what you do.
Respect your personal ‘me time’ – and get others to respect it it too. Unless your home is your office (in which case you have a dedicated office area), your home isn’t an extension of office activities. Your home should be a place of relaxation (de-stressing) after a hard days’ work.
Depending on the nature of your job, your weekend too should only be devoted to relaxation, recreation and the possibility of recharging your mental batteries. If you start bringing home work files, working unpaid overtime, or making professional phone calls during those periods, you will not be able to achieve the psychological balance that is so important for you to flourish in your daily life, and fight against stress.
Keeping up with the Joneses
You car ugliness becomes more intolerable the moment your neighbour buys a scintillating new one.
Where I hail from, it is advised you should not make use of somebody else’ wristwatch to schedule your work.
Keeping up appearances of being in sync with others is a major stressor.
Supposing your friend just bought a spanking new Samsung Galaxy S9+. You take a look, salivate and believe that you need to step up to that ‘level’ by dumping your InfiniX Note 2 (which has been serving you meritoriously well – all along), you put yourself under unnecessary (financial) stress.
If your finances aren’t good enough to upgrade, don’t feel under pressure. Even if your finances are okay to go grab a similar upscale device, ask yourself if you truly need this at that point in time., or you are doing it just to impress and not express.
Despite many of the tips above being commonsensical, their observance is something that few people respect.
Banish stress, and keep those grey hairs at bay for much longer!