There Is A Way Of Being Wrong Which Is Also Sometimes Necessarily Right.
– Edward Abbey
There is this famous saying by Williams Shakespeare that Nothing Is Right And Nothing Is Wrong, But Thinking Makes It So
The exact quote is,
Why, then, ’tis none to you, for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so . To me it is a prison. Well, then it isn’t one to you, since nothing is really good or bad in itself—it’s all what a person thinks about it.
Hamlet: Act 2, Scene 2</
If we agree with Shakespeare, we can then extrapolate, and say there is no sin, only perceptions of sin. And there are no rights or wrong.
Is adultery a sin? Is homosexuality a sin? What / who determines ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’?
I got introspective about this when somebody asked recently,
Who deserves mercy?
A homosexual or an adulterer ?
Different people have their different opinions, but there were some compelling arguments that made a clearcut answer impossible for a thinker.
Can you truly legitimately condemn adultery while simultaneously criticizing homosexuality?
Here is a conversation – two opposing views. It makes interesting reading.
Homosexuality can not be a sin just because your religious books says it is. What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is nobody’s business.
However, cheating on your significant other is wrong, homosexual or heterosexual.
If we say homosexuality is not a sin, then there is no basis for condemning any other act (such as adultery).
Looking at your submission, on what basis can Mr. A’s act be termed wrong but Mr B’s be termed right just because 2 person agree that it’s not wrong?
I insist that homosexuality is not a “sin”.
Whoever I am sexually attracted to is nobody’s business.
Of course it is your business.
But if it’s not wrong, how does being with someone else other than your “significant other” (adultery) become wrong?
Who sets that particular standard, and on what basis?
When you agreed to be in a COMMITTED relationship, you have set your standards and expectations.
Who decided your sexual preference for you? I am sure your answer will be – NOBODY, it is your attraction that made you chase your significant other.
So who are you to tell me who to share my love with?
No one is telling you who to share your love with. That is entirely up to you. My point is that you cannot take a soft line on one act and then take a hard line on the other. The situation is exactly the same.
Being with someone of the same sex cannot be right while cheating on a partner is adjudged wrong.
That is wrong!
Following your same sex logic, then there is no basis for the “wrongness” of ‘cheating on a partner’.
And if one of the partners goes back on their word, surely it is their right to, TOO, just as two consenting adults have the right to decide who to be with, same sex or otherwise. People fall out of love all the time, after all.
If no one can decide my sexual preference, no one can decide what is right and what is wrong for me either. in any circumstance.
This leads us to the inexorable conclusion that, nothing is right and nothing is wrong, right?. .
Anyone in a committed relationship be it gay or straight is not committing any sin as far as I am concerned, provided s/he stays commited.
They are two consenting adults.
However, when you breach the contract you are wrong. I don’t believe a person breaches any moral code JUST BECAUSE OF THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCE.
But when you cheat on your partner, you are WRONG.
One of the holy books says, judge not, that you may not be judged.
Not having all the facts, humans would likely not be in any good position to determine what is right /wrong, as the intent behind an action is often as important or more important than the action itself
So, unless you are a state-appointed Judge, perhaps it is better not to condemn any action / inaction, not put on a sanctimonious toga by saying something is sinful or not .
Leave that to the earthly Judge, and to the Judge of all Judges .