So, I ran across this post on Facebook, and got completely miffed.
I am male, by the way.
IMPORTANT MESSAGE FOR ALL WOMEN:
1). Most men cannot have sex exclusively with just one woman, for the rest of their lives.
2). Men are created with varied sexual appetite, some men can do without sex for a year, others cannot do without sex for 2 days.
3). A man who’s madly in love with one woman may still have sex with other women but still love his ‘woman’.
4). Some of the best husbands have concubines or mistresses. Their extra marital affairs play a role in keeping the man sane and free of sexual tensions, especially during mid-life crises.
5). If your man is just having sex with some sweet sexy teen or babe, DO NOT WORRY. It’s part of the game.
6). Most highly respected men of God sleep with their wife’s closest friends, trusted church members or domestic staff (house girl) because they cannot chase other women in the open to avoid being seen.
7). Most chronic wife beaters are faithful husbands, they hardly have extra marital affairs.
8). Most ‘extra’ loving husbands have concubines, these concubines keep the man abreast on new ways of making women happy.
9). Your man’s mistress or concubine is most times not interested in you or your home. She has already seen your pictures and those of your kids via your hubby’s phone. She and your hubby just have a sexual understanding or partnership which helps both deal with peculiar individual issues.
10). As a woman, if you go all out in a bid to catch your husband red-handed cheating, you WILL succeed. Then what next? If you listen hard to your domestic servants in their private discussions, you will certainly hear them insult you, so why listen?
11). Judge your man by his responsibilities towards you and the kids, and NOT by who he’s giving ‘Sexual style’ to outside.
12) A man who will cheat will cheat irrespective of what you do! Stop checking his phone, don’t go through his mailbox!
Stay away from it.
I totally, totally disagree with the thinking behind this post – the idea that men are hard wired to stray.
Important message for all men : Don’t get married if you are not ready for the commitment and loyalty that comes with marriage.
I agree .
Someone tries to justify the “man with uncontrolled sexual desire” theory.
The message has a whole lot of truth.
You cannot change the male specie propensity for promiscuity.
The best you can do is manage it. The opening paragraph also refers to most men and not all.
And statistics will prove that a lot of men behave this way
That a lot of people do something doesn’t necessarily make it right
He goes further..
Furthermore the story was more advisory to women. Don’t kill yourself over a man.
Another fact of life, successful marriages withstood the test of time because the woman looked the other way
Successful marriages withstood the test of time because both parties behaved like grownups, and realized that adulthood and marriage is about sacrifice, and being responsible..
And if the women also adopt that promiscuous attitude, what happens?
Meanwhile, I don’t believe men are wired to be promiscuous. It is just an excuse to excuse irresponsible behaviour
This proponent is unrepentant ,
That sacrifice is actually the woman looking the other way.. if you interview women they will tell you the things some go through just to keep the home.
I believe your comments are directed at the ideal world.. the real world is different. It’s only pretenders or those in denial who would think otherwise
I am firmly of the opinion that, saying men are wired to stray is just giving the menfolks a Carte Blanche to be wayward.
There is no human who doesn’t occasionally meet someone whose frequencies rhyme with his/hers. It is about exercising discipline, because of your marital commitment.
In highly islamic countries, women are often severely punished for being adulterous. The men are often not even mentioned, and you wonder if it doesn’t take two to commit adultery or fornication.
The point is, because humankind doesn’t view a man misbehaving as grievous as when a woman does the same, men take that liberty to justify that men have an uncontrolled raging libido.
We are above animals who just act on natural instinct. It is why we are civilized people and not cavemen who just succumb to primordial / basal urges.
Women have hormones too, and are said to have marital infidelities almost as much as the men, but their own is clandestine.
Trying to justify a man straying is chauvinistic. If a man can stray, should we also adopt a permissive view about women straying too?
I insist this post is a load of bull, and thinking like that should be discouraged so that we have a higher marital success rate worldwide. Infidelity breaks lots of marriages.
We need to teach boys, before they become men, to be responsible with everything, including sexuality.
If women are told to overlook men’s roving gazes, then men too should do the same regarding their wives..
Equality in all!