There is this age old question of how well a marriage would run if the wife starts to seriously, seriously out-earn the man, or is the sole provider for the family. Like the case of the man losing a paid employment, and is unable to get a commensurate replacement job.
It is a different matter if a man deliberately marries totally out of his financial league (for love, or with an eye on the money). In that case, he may be prepared psychologically for whatever the wind blows in his direction.
We would like to pontificate that love should transcend all, money should not matter when there is true love, bla bla, but is that the case in reality?
When we say things like this, we merely state how things should be, not how things are in reality.
Is it not said that, WHEN MONEY WALKS OUT THROUGH THE DOOR, MONEY GOES OUT THROUGH THE WINDOW?
There is no doubt that <b>money is power, and absolute money dominates absolutely.
Most people would “misbehave” when exposed to power (also known as MONEY, fame, etc). So a woman getting too big for her pants when the big bucks start rolling in is similar to that friend you used to know when he was nobody suddenly becoming inaccessible or extra_glacial when he attains a higher financial orbit or positional height.
The two most critical causes of marital strife is said to be sex and MONEY. The two are oppressive sources of domination. A struggle for power that is almost always there in marriages even if subliminally or covertly.
Yes, SHE WHO HAS THE MONEY DICTATES THE TUNE. Money, enough of it, gives you choices in life, choices that the broke spouse cannot grab hold of. Choices like deciding to go lodge in an hotel for a week when that tiresome man grates intolerably on the cash-madam’s nerves.
Choices to pay some goons to beat some sense into the dumb head of that piss-poor man, or give some policemen a few hundreds of thousand to exercise their muscles on the face of that poor specimen of under-earning man.
Seriously, you are dead without money, even if you still crawl about, and THE LACK OF MONEY IS TRULY THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL. (marital discord, included).
Like Archimedes saying, GIVE ME A LEVER LONG ENOUGH AND A PLACE TO STAND AND I WOULD MOVE THE EARTH, I could also say MONEY IS NEEDED TO BUY HAPPINESS, PEACE AND LOVE.
A popular musician said IT IS PATIENCE THAT IS REQUIRED TO BE THE HUSBAND OF A WOMAN. No; he is mistaken. It is MONEY that is required, otherwise we have a tacit role reversal that is devastating to the to ego of the man..
Even the bible says THE MAN WHO CANNOT TAKE CARE OF HIS FAMILY IS WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL.
It takes the grace of God and real humility for a woman to respect the man she out-earns by a really really wide margin. What exactly is the man bringing to the table that her money cannot procure, and much more?
The Yorubas say, EATING TOGETHER IS NOT ENJOYABLE
IF THE SAME PARTY KEEPS PAYING FOR THE OUTING ALL THE TIME.
A family where the woman earns ten times what the man pulls in is certainly unhealthy, as the woman is the “de facto” man of the house.
Of course, for any generalization, there would be a few exceptions, but broadly speaking, there is likely to be more martial harmony if the earning level of the spouses are close, or the man is ahead. Fact of life, based on the ego of the man, which is also another fact of life.
So, men, with all your getting, get that money, and stay ahead of the curve (aka wife), and prevent that wedding invitation card ever reading “MrS & Mr”.