Almost everybody loves eloquence . But our modern society tends to value
grandiloquence even more. Let us not confuse the two. Eloquence is the art of speaking well in public while grandiloquence is great oratory, tinged with a dose of pedantry and condescension.
Being verbose is a sign of weakness.
There is the story of the hawk, hen and the duck.
We all know that although the hawk will swoop down to pick the chicks whenever the fancy catches it, it never attempts to pick the ducklings.
Why, you may ask?
Legend has it that, in the olden days when the hawk picks up the ducklings, Mama Duck will stay silent and doesn’t display any agitation.
The calmness used to give the hawk great trepidation, and not knowing what Mana Duck may be planning as retaliation, it speedily returns the baby ducks to their mother.
Conversely, when the hawk picks up the chicks, the Nama Hen displays a lot of anger, make a lot of noise, cause a commotion. Rhe Hawk then knows with certainty that this is all the mother hen is capable of, and nothing else.
So, until this day, the Hawk nonchalantly picks up the chicks for breakfast, lunch and dinner, while it will not touch the ducklingss.
That’s the power of silence.
Law 4 the book called The 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene advises: Always Say Less Than Necessary
“When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control.
Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinx-like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.
The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.”
Silence is the best answer in many instances where people tend to speak too much. People who are really powerful are also very often the most silent. Let us not confuse reticence with foolishness.
People who are conscious of their strength use language in a measured way True strength is knowing when to keep quiet where talking would really exacerbate a bad situation.
While it is desirable to seek to express oneself better in a world where the social image is very dependent on oratorical speech, it is however better to learn to speak only when necessary rather than be a leaky mouth.
Everything in moderation.
The great secret is therefore is to weaponize silence, and engage more in active listening… which is how we learn.
Being more attentive to what is happening around us is what makes us wiser than if we are only focused on the image we want to project to others by being garrulous. Listening is a gateway to universal knowledge. It comes in many levels, from the most down-to-earth to the most subtle.
Good personal development consists of practising active silence . It is by making room in ourselves that true growth takes place.
By being able to combine active listening and unnerving, silence people will sense a power in you that they cannot really put into words. . they recognise the power without being able to explain it .
You can use silence to empower others, negotiate, emphasize a point as welll as build trust.
Be still, and know that I am within.