Feeling restless, Unsettled and Stressed?
Anxiety, uncertainty, bewilderment, melancholy, worry, ungrateful, ill-health these are the things that make many people feel unsettled and stressed.
In fact any behaviour which you do unconsciously most of the time but when you become aware of it you realise is making you feel uncomfortable, tense or is causing you pain, is associated with being stressed. You may feel anxious, irritable or low in self esteem, and you may have racing thoughts, worry constantly or go over things in your head. You may notice that you lose your temper more easily, or act unreasonably.
Stress can also have an indirect effect on the immune system as a person may use unhealthy behavioral coping strategies to reduce their stress, such as drinking and smoking.
Everyone experiences some of these stress symptoms from time to time. However, if you start experiencing several of these symptoms more frequently, you need to stop and enjoy life more.
Change, which is tough. Steady ground is hard to find in our modern world. Things shift and move around us seemingly on a whim and nothing is secure. The not-knowing is endlessly worrying. Though one do try so hard to live in the ‘now’ and not the ‘next’, sometimes what happens next is all one can think about.
Be careful how you compromise your life in the name of happiness.The word compromise is used in two different senses, one typically positive and the other typically negative. The good sense of compromise is finding a common ground with another person.
The bad sense is being untrue to your core values and beliefs. To be true to yourself takes courage. It requires you to be introspective, sincere, and fair. It means that you will not let others define you and your values in the name of happiness. We need to be true to ourselves to be happy.
Expressing gratitude bolsters self-worth and self-esteem. When you realize how much people have done for you or how much you have accomplished, you feel more confident and efficacious. Unfortunately, for many people, it comes more naturally to focus on failures and disappointments or on other people’s slights and hurts. Gratefulness can help you unlearn this habit. Instead of automatically thinking, “Woe is me,” in response to any setback, the practice of gratitude encourages you instead to consider what you value about your current life or how you are thankful that things aren’t worse. The practice of gratitude is incompatible with negative emotions and may actually diminish or deter such feelings as anger, bitterness, and greed. Gratitude dissolves negative feelings like anger, greed and jealousy melt in its embrace, fear and defensiveness shrink.
Selflessness is one of the major cure to stress. It turns out that selflessness is the easiest way to save you from stress and extend your life. A little bit of stress is productive, but a lot isn’t worth it!
Modern life is full of frustrations, deadlines, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. Stress isn’t always bad, though. Stress within your comfort zone can help you perform under pressure, motivate you to do your best, even keep you safe when danger looms. But when stress becomes overwhelming, it can damage your health, mood, relationships with family and friends, and quality of life.
The above write up is published on our site courtesy of Dr. Maureen Ona-Igbru.
Dr Maureen is a medical doctor with many years in practice and has an undying passion for dissemination of health knowledge to the public. One striking feature that cuts across all her articles is the ability to present a complex medical condition in an easy to understand manner for the readers.
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